The Power of Patience - A Strategy for Life (not Just a Virtue)

I’ll be honest—I used to hate waiting. Impatience wasn’t just a quirk; it was a lifestyle. I didn’t want to slow down. I wanted results. Yesterday.

But over time, I discovered that patience isn’t about slowing down at all. It’s about strategic energy alignment.

Patience, when used with intention, becomes a superpower. It stops being about passively enduring and starts becoming about consciously channeling. Not a virtue… but a vital part of visionary leadership.

In this post, I’ll share what I’ve learned from my own “Patience Project”—including the three types of patience, the role of the ego, and how the Butterfly Strategy can guide you through uncertainty and creative pause with clarity, momentum, and trust.

Stress-Patience: The One We Know Too Well

Let’s start with the kind of patience most people know:
Standing in line while someone counts coins. Waiting for coffee to brew. Feeling irritated because the world isn’t moving fast enough for your ideas.

I call this Stress-Patience.

But this post isn’t about enduring minor annoyances.
It’s about a deeper kind of patience—the kind that shapes projects, identities, and even destinies.

Still, Stress-Patience can be useful if you flip it.

Try this next time you’re stuck:

• What insight might be hiding in this moment?

• What is this wait giving me permission to reflect on?

• Can I use this pause as a mini energy-reset?

Let stress become stillness.

The Ego’s Role in Impatience (and Why You Should Feed It)

Here’s the truth: impatience is often your ego asking for attention.
It wants movement, momentum, meaning—now. It wants to see the reward.

But instead of shaming the ego or trying to silence it, you can collaborate with it.

Ask:

• What is my ego hungry for right now?

• How can I validate that need without letting it derail me?
  
  

The ego isn’t your enemy. It’s your engine.

When your ego is respected—not suppressed—it becomes the fuel that keeps your deeper intentions in motion, even during times of external stillness.

The Patience Project: Trust in Motion

My personal journey with patience began on a green couch in 2008, at “Apathetic Åsa’s” house, while waiting for a visa to return to San Diego. It was the waiting that felt like being lost in a fog: nothing to do but wait and not know what would happen next.

And then something clicked.

Patience is trust in motion.

When you can’t move forward externally, you must evolve internally.
That’s where the Butterfly Strategy was born.

Action Tip: Convert Your Restlessness Into Fuel

Sometimes impatience doesn’t show up in small everyday moments—it strikes during the biggest seasons of life, when you feel the weight of waiting the most.

For me, one of those moments came in the final stage of pregnancy with my second child. The waiting felt endless, and I had no control over the timing. 

I was waiting for my body to do something I couldn’t control. So I turned to a challenge I had been avoiding: a postponed law exam.

 I passed it—just days before my C-section.

That experience taught me this:

When you feel stuck, give your energy something meaningful to do.

Pick a challenge. Focus on something you’ve neglected. Let it become a vessel for your momentum.

The Butterfly Strategy: A Project-Based Patience Framework

As a LifeSpider™, I know that all life processes—and all projects—move in cycles.
That’s why I created the Butterfly Strategy: a four-phase framework that helps you identify what stage a project is in, so you stop forcing timelines and start honoring natural evolution.

🥚 1. The Egg Stage

The spark has landed. 

You’ve received a new idea, and it’s not ready to hatch.
Don’t force it. Don’t drag it into production. Just nurture the energy.

The Egg is the quiet arrival of possibility. It’s the whisper of an idea, fragile and full of promise, not yet ready to be seen by the world. Your only task is to hold it gently—protect it from pressure, give it space to breathe, and trust that something is forming even if you can’t see it yet.

 
Respect your ideas. They’re gestating for a reason.

💭 Which of your ideas are still eggs—and how can you protect their silence until they’re ready?

🐛 2. The Larva Stage

It’s time to sort and make a decision.

Here, you start evaluating: Is this idea aligned with my mission? Is this the right time?
You don’t need to act yet—but you do need to get honest.

Let your inner compass—not pressure—decide what moves forward.

The Larva is where choice begins. The idea has cracked open, and now you face the responsibility of direction. Not every spark was meant to grow into something larger — some exist only to awaken you, others to connect you to a bigger thread.

In the Larva stage, the energy is hungry, moving, demanding. It asks you: What do you want me to become?

This is not about rushing into action, but about aligning — allowing your mission, your intention, and even your ego to guide you in discerning what is worth your energy.

Sorting is not rejection; it’s refinement. Just as nature discards what no longer serves, you, too, are asked to let some possibilities fall away so others can thrive.

 

💭 Which projects are asking to grow—and how will you nurture them?

  

🦪 3. The Cocoon Stage

The becoming.

Growth is happening beneath the surface — unseen but unstoppable.

This is where my LifeSpider System™ has lived for years—evolving, transforming me alongside it.

 
The Cocoon is the paradox of stillness and transformation. From the outside, it may appear that nothing is happening — but inside, the old form is dissolving so that something new can emerge. It is uncomfortable, messy, and often lonely, because this is the stage where you’re asked to surrender control and trust the unseen process.

In the Cocoon, you are not “doing” as much as you are becoming. This is the space of deep integration, where your experiences, choices, and energies weave together to reshape you. Patience here is not about waiting quietly — it’s about supporting the unfolding, resisting the urge to rip open what is still forming.

The Cocoon asks: Will you trust the darkness long enough to let the light find you?

💭 Which of your projects is quietly transforming right now — even if you can’t yet see the results?

🦋 4. The Butterfly Stage

The flight.

Your project is ready to emerge and take its place in the world. 

The project is ready to emerge. Not just completed, but alive.

Let it go. Let it breathe.

Don’t control it. Don’t perfect it. Let it radiate what it came to deliver.

The Butterfly is the release — the moment when your creation is ready to unfold its wings and reveal itself. It’s not about control anymore. It’s about letting your work breathe and take on a life of its own.

At this stage, you shift from nurturing to trusting. What you’ve been holding, shaping, and protecting is now ready to radiate outward. The Butterfly doesn’t force its wings to open; it simply knows when the time has come to fly. In the same way, your projects will tell you when they are complete — when they are ready to move beyond you.

The Butterfly stage asks you to practice detachment: to celebrate what you’ve created without clinging to it, and to honor that every project carries its own energy. Some will soar high, some will flutter quietly, but all are part of your evolution.

Ask: 

• Is this led by passion or ego?

• Is it time to share, or is there still time to refine?
  
  

💭 Which of your projects is ready to fly — and can you release it with trust, allowing it to touch the world in its own way?

🕸️ The LifeSpider™ Lens: Why Alignment Creates Flow

So, how do you know which projects to nurture, which to pause, and which to launch into the world?

That clarity comes from what I call the LifeSpider System™—a multidimensional blueprint that reveals the deeper structure of your life.

Imagine a spider with six legs. Each leg represents one of your core components:

🧭 Intention (your soul’s compass)
🔥 Driving Force (your ego’s energy)
🌍 Mission (your purpose)
🎯 Life Projects (your vehicles for impact)
🧬 Essence (your raw potential)
⚡ Support Legs (your foundation and stability)

When these legs are activated and aligned, you stop guessing what you should do—and start recognizing what you were always meant to do.

And here’s the magic:
Each Mission is connected to three Life Projects—real-world containers for growth, action, and impact.

That means you’re always operating with multiple projects at once, each potentially in a different stage of the Butterfly Strategy.

For example:

• 🥚 One project might be in the Egg Stage, waiting quietly for the right moment.

• 🐛 Another could be in the Larva Stage, hungry for energy and clarity, asking to be nurtured into its next form.

• 🦪 A third might be deep in the Cocoon Stage, transforming you from the inside out.

• 🦋 And yet another could be ready to take flight as a Butterfly, demanding visibility and support.
  
  

This is why “having too many things going on” is not a flaw for The Weird Ones—it’s a natural state when you’re living from your full Spider Blueprint.

When you identify your Intentions and Missions, and let your ego-energy move in sync with them, your actions stop feeling chaotic or impatient. They become aligned expressions of who you are becoming.

You don’t just manage projects.
You live your evolution through them.

Rooted in Soul, Guided by Ego

What I’ve learned is this:
When you let your projects move at their own rhythm, you’ll find you already have patience—for the things that matter most.

True patience is not passive.
It’s a conscious choice to respect timing, to trust process, and to let your ego walk beside your soul—not ahead of it.

Final Reflection: The Truth About Trust

When I look back at what I’ve built—my books, my programs, even my horses and animals—it’s always the things I let unfold that carried the most soul.

The most beautiful things I’ve created were the ones I trusted enough to wait for.

 

 

So I ask you:

🌀 What stage is your most crucial project in?
🌀 What would it feel like to wait with trust instead of frustration?
🌀 Can you turn your impatience into strategy?

Want to Take This Further?

This blog post is just the beginning.

✅ Take the Weird Ones Test  to identify your core driving forces.

🕸️ Join The Web of Weird  and share what stage your projects are in—we’re mapping this together.

🚧 And if you want to turn your own chaos into creation, get on the early-access to the upcoming Butterfly Strategy Crash Course.
Because you’re not stuck—you’re incubating transformation.

An Invitation to Explore Together

I’ve never officially run a course on the Butterfly Strategy before. But the more I share it, the more I see how powerful it can be for The Weird Ones who juggle multiple projects at once.

So here’s what I’m imagining: a crash course — short, focused, efficient, and practical. We map your projects, discover their stages, and learn how to turn impatience into creative fuel.

 I want to start with those who feel called right now. If this sparks your curiosity, please send me an email and let me know you’re interested. We’ll get it up and running together.

Like the Activation Hub we once began — which may still be in its own Larval or Cocoon stage — this crash course will grow at its own pace. Maybe it’s meant to emerge now, with you.

💌 If you want to be part of the first circle, email me at birgitta@lifespider.com  Let’s see what wings this idea might grow./ Birgitta