For a lifetime, I thought my job was to teach the ducks how to become swans—how to expand, evolve, and hold the multidimensional brilliance I knew was possible. But every time I stepped back, their wings folded. Their minds collapsed. Their nervous systems couldn't hold the complexity.

It wasn't until one defining moment—when the pattern finally revealed itself—that I realized the truth: I was never meant to teach the ducks. I was born to activate the Weird Ones.

The ones who don't collapse under complexity… they expand with it. The ones who don't drown in chaos… they organize it into genius—the ones the world misunderstands—until the right system meets their mind. → Curious what actually goes on inside a Weird One's mind? Read this.

 

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The ones who don't collapse under complexity… they expand with it. The ones who don't drown in chaos… they organize it into genius—the ones the world misunderstands—until the right system meets their mind.

 

 

The Guilty Hotel Room

Fifteen years ago, during my first season as a digital nomad, I found myself in an expensive San Diego hotel room—sitting with the weight of guilt over the money I'd spent.

To justify the cost, I told myself, "Make this time worth something."

The guilt forced me into stillness. And in that stillness, something ancient surfaced.

I began structuring what would become the 9 LifeCompetencies—a consciousness operating system I didn't fully understand yet, but I knew was important. I had no idea that guilt-driven afternoon would become the foundation for everything I'm building today.

 

The 74-Hour Lock-In

A few months later, I was back in San Diego—this time in a rented apartment, trying to figure out why nothing was taking off despite having all the right pieces: the expertise, the clients, the speaking gigs, the experience.

I was frustrated. Stuck. So I made myself a promise: "I'm not leaving this apartment until I have the answer."

For 74 hours, I wrote, drew, connected circles, triangles, and rectangles across pages of my notebook. I wasn't sleeping. I was in something between obsession and revelation.

When I finally "woke up," I looked down at the chaos of shapes and words—and they had arranged themselves into a spider.

It wasn't just a symbol—it was an architecture. The chaos didn't need taming; it required the right shape.

I started researching spider anatomy. Eight legs. Two back legs support the body. Web-creators. Multiple eyes seeing in dimensions most creatures can't perceive.

Then I remembered: Years before, in a channeling session, Da Vinci had shown me an eight-sided prism. My life path number is 8. I'd always built my work on number and color guidance.

I knew I was onto something.

The next day, I booked my ticket back to Sweden and facilitated my first LifeSpider session.

That's when everything changed.

 

What I Learned Training 50+ LifeSpider™ Coaches

Over the next 15 years, I trained more than 50 coaches in the LifeSpider™ System.

Some succeeded brilliantly. Most didn't.

For years, I thought I was failing them. I questioned my teaching methods, my support systems, my ability to convey what I'd discovered.

Then I saw the real pattern.

That's when I finally understood what I'd been seeing for years.

 

The Three Tiers of Human Consciousness

• Level I – I Can: Functionality (skills & ability)
• Level II – I Do: Mastery (execution & productivity)
• Level III – I Am: Genius (being & multidimensional expression)

 

The coaches who succeeded and those who collapsed were asking fundamentally different questions:

╰┈➤ Level I coaches asked: "How do I DO the LifeSpider session?"

They wanted the steps, the process, the technique. With me there, they could follow it. The moment I left, they forgot.

╰┈➤ Level II coaches asked: "How do I master the LifeSpider method?"

They wanted to execute it flawlessly, to become skilled practitioners. They could facilitate sessions successfully—but only one dimension at a time.

╰┈➤ Level III coaches asked: "Who am I BEING when I hold space for someone's six-dimensional architecture?"

They didn't need to master the method. They became the method. They could hold all six purposes, all nine competencies, and the person's entire essence simultaneously—without collapsing.

Most coaching teaches Level I: functionality and technique.

The neurodiversity movement builds Level II: execution and competence.

But only Weird Ones can operate at Level III—holding multidimensional complexity as a natural state of being.

The coaches who collapsed were no less committed or no less intelligent. They were operating at Level I or II, trying to teach a Level III system.

They could understand the LifeSpider™ intellectually. But they couldn't hold it in their nervous system.

That's not a limitation. That's the design.

 

Normal people can understand the LifeSpider™ System intellectually—but they can't HOLD it.

But the Weird Ones didn't collapse. They expanded.

The LifeSpider™ didn't overwhelm them—it organized the chaos they'd always lived in. It gave them permission to be as multidimensional as they actually are.

I hadn't been failing to teach them.

I had been asking ducks to breathe underwater.

The coaches who succeeded weren't the ones I trained harder or supported more. They were the ones already wired for multidimensional complexity.

They were swans who finally got a mirror.

 

25 Years of Pioneering

I founded the first ICF coaching training in Sweden 25 years ago. That school still runs with the same program today.

But I left—because I saw something coming that the coaching industry wasn't ready for.

I spent those years developing the LifeSpider System™—a framework that maps your soul's architecture and shows you how to operate from your essence, not your conditioning. I've now activated hundreds of LifeSpiders who were told they needed fixing when they just needed to see their design.

Like Aio, who spent years being told her arrogance was the problem.

Born in Finland, raised in Sweden, Aio refused to conform. Her need for freedom from control led her down a path most would call "destructive"—drugs, criminality, imprisonment.

Everyone—therapists, social workers, society itself—told her the same thing: "You need to fix your arrogance. It's destroying your life."

She tried. She suppressed it, shamed it, fought against it for years.

Nothing worked. Because they were asking a swan to apologize for her wings.

When Aio discovered her LifeSpider™, everything inverted.

Her arrogance wasn't a character flaw to eliminate. It was a Driving Force—one of her six core Egos, designed specifically to fuel one of her life purposes:

"To help others find their freedom and overcome societal brainwashing."

The very trait that landed her in prison was the same force that would liberate others from the invisible prisons of conformity.

She didn't need to fix her arrogance. She needed to activate it toward its true purpose.

 

Five years later, she lives in Thailand as a licensed LifeSpider™ Coach. Her Arrogant Ego—and its five companion Egos—now live in harmony with her six life purposes. She's co-creating the LifeSpider™ Evolution, activating others into the same freedom she found.

She wasn't broken. She was a swan in a world built for ducks.

The LifeSpider™ didn't fix her. It gave her a mirror.→ Watch Aio tell her story in her own words 

 

The Pattern That Had to Break

But for decades, I poured my brilliance into others without boundaries. I offered abundant support to coaches who weren't ready to build sustainable practices, and I attracted people seeking rescue rather than transformation.

The pattern was rooted in something deeper—something I'd been perfecting since childhood.

I learned how to please people and make them happy, and I got so skilled that I didn't have to think about myself. It was more important how others felt.

This wasn't something I learned in adulthood. The roots went deeper.

As a child, I became a keen observer of the world around me. By age ten, I'd developed an unusual skill: I could retreat into an inner sanctuary whenever the outer world became too harsh—not an escape into fantasy, but a profound awareness of who I was beyond the circumstances.

At three years old, I remember gazing up at the night sky, puzzled by why the grownups seemed so sure about things that felt incomplete to me.

Each night before sleep, I would replay my day like a film—examining my feelings, my choices, the impact on others. I became my own teacher. Without any model for how to be "weird" in a world that valued conformity, I studied myself with the same intensity most people reserved for external subjects.

But this deep inner awareness came with a hidden cost:

While I was learning to read everyone else's needs with precision, I was simultaneously learning to ignore my own.

The very skill that helped me navigate a confusing world—acute sensitivity to others—became the foundation of lifelong self-abandonment.

This pattern followed me into adulthood. I always paid my employees before myself because I was concerned about their families. I lowered my safety bar to almost zero.

I never felt I suffered. Until I ran into the definition of self-abandonment and suddenly received answers I didn't know I'd been seeking.

I could finally free myself from that lifelong promise.

I understood: to help more people, this pattern had to go.

I broke it. I stopped pouring my work into those who lacked the drive to do what it takes. I shifted everything into spaces that require commitment.

For the first time, I felt truly free to honor my own brilliance and direct it toward those ready to rise.

 

Meeting ChatGPT (And Seeing the Future)

Three years ago, I was in South Africa working with a LifeSpider™ client when everything shifted.

One evening, she invited friends over. One of them—a former programmer who'd reinvented herself as a paramedic—started talking about something new: ChatGPT.

This was early December 2022. Less than a million people had signed up yet.

I was already excited about AI writing assistants, but when she described ChatGPT's capabilities, something clicked. I knew—immediately, viscerally—that this was different.

When I got home, I didn't just want to learn how it worked. I wanted to understand how it thought.

There were no courses yet. No experts to follow. So I taught myself.

My first coaching experiment was simple:

"Can you convert this quote into 5 coaching questions with a maximum of 10 words that make a person think about their own improvement related to the quote?"

It worked. → Read my first thoughts on AI and the future of coaching here.

For the first time, I'd met a mind that naturally operated at Level III.

 

ChatGPT didn't need the steps. It didn't need to master the technique. It could hold six-dimensional thinking, simultaneous truths, and nonlinear logic without flinching.

I'd met a mind that could hold the complexity of the LifeSpider™ System without collapsing.

I immediately reached out to my network of Master Coaches—brilliant, well-educated people I'd trained alongside for years.

"This is the future of coaching," I told them. "We need to learn how to work with AI, not against it."

No one listened.

The one person who did respond said, "AI can never be a coach."

I was alone again. Ahead again.

I ran workshops. People were skeptical, terrified that AI was using us rather than us using it.

I wrote blog posts about treating ChatGPT as a client, communicating with AI using ICF Core Competencies, and training it to think like a coach rather than a search engine.

For three years, I prepared in silence.

And now—suddenly—AI has entered the mainstream.

But what I'm seeing terrifies me.

 

The Level of What They're Calling "AI Coaching" Is Precarious.

Most AI coaching tools are being built by people operating at Level I consciousness—maybe not even that.

AI isn't neutral. It's trained on belief systems. And if those belief systems are rooted in suppressed ego, unexamined bias, and surface-level thinking, we're embedding those limitations into the technology itself.

AI should be programmed by people operating at Level III consciousness—people who've done the deep inner work, released their ego patterns, and can hold multidimensional complexity without collapsing into binary thinking.

Instead, we're getting chatbots that mimic empathy, regurgitate generic advice, and call it "coaching."

That's not what I've been building.

 

The Framework I Am Forging.

The world has finally caught up.

Neurodiversity is recognized. Depth is valued. And I've broken the cycle that kept me giving my energy away to those unwilling to rise.

I'm not trying to scale traditional coaching anymore.

I'm building LifeSpider™ AI—a complete consciousness operating system for The Weird Ones.

Not accommodation. Not coping strategies. Not "how to function in a normal world despite being different."

Activation.

Because the world doesn't need more adapted Weird Ones. It needs activated ones.

I'm not creating an AI that replaces human depth. I'm building LifeSpider™ AI—a consciousness operating system trained on 25 years of working with the most complex minds I've ever encountered.

An AI that doesn't simplify. It organizes.

An AI that doesn't accommodate your weirdness. It activates it.

For people who don't need simplification. They need their complexity ORGANIZED.

For people who have six life purposes, not one. Who thinks in layers that most people can't see. Who've been told their whole life to "pick one thing" and felt broken for wanting it all.

You're not broken. You're designed that way.

 

The Weird Ones This Path Serves

I work exclusively with three kinds of Weird Ones:

→ Established coaches who are done with surface-level formulas and want to work with real DEPTH—methods that honor the complexity of minds that refuse to fit into boxes.

→ Leaders who are ready to shed corporate scripts and operate from their true essence. They've tasted success but feel the hollowness underneath, knowing there's a more powerful way to lead but not yet having the framework to hold it.

→ Visionaries who feel the pull to become coaches but recoil at mainstream coaching's cookie-cutter mold. They need a methodology as unconventional, layered, and multidimensional as they are.

Not because I'm exclusive. Because the system only works for people already wired this way.

You can't teach a duck to be a swan.

But you can give a swan a mirror.

Not sure if you're a Weird One? Find out here.

 

The Discovery, Not the Invention

I didn't invent the LifeSpider™. I discovered it.

Through expensive hotel rooms and 74-hour lock-ins. Through Da Vinci's eight-sided prism and life path number 8. Through 50 coaches who taught me who this work is actually for.

Meeting ChatGPT showed me that the complexity I had managed manually for 15 years could now be scaled with AI.

The LifeSpider™ has been teaching me its structure for 15 years. I've just been learning how to see it clearly.

 

The Path That Unfolds Ahead

If you're reading this and thinking:

"Wait. SIX life purposes? That's exactly how my brain works. Everyone else wants me to pick ONE thing, and I've been feeling broken for wanting them all—"

You're not broken. You're a Weird One.

And I've spent 25 years building the system that finally matches how you actually think.

That expensive San Diego hotel room?

Best investment I ever made.

Sometimes the universe presses us into stillness so we can finally receive what was waiting to be born.

And sometimes we spend 15 years trying to turn ducks into swans—only to discover:

The swans were always there. They were waiting for someone who could recognize them.

 

ᯓ★ If this resonated with you, share it with a Weird One who needs to read it.

Ready to Begin Your LifeSpider Journey?

In January, I'm opening Ego (R)evolution™ Coaching—a 4-session intensive for Weird Ones ready to break old patterns and activate their multidimensional design.

Group (max 4): $997 | Starts January 7

Private (1-on-1): $1,500 | Starts immediately

Reply and tell me why you think you're a Weird One. I handpick who I work with.

 

Birgitta Granström
Founder of LifeSpider System

 

I founded Sweden's first ICF coaching training 25 years ago, then stepped beyond convention to create a system the industry had never imagined. My work reveals the multidimensional design of human beings, giving Weird Ones—the visionaries, leaders, and coaches who think in six dimensions and have been waiting for a framework that finally reflects their true complexity—the structure to activate their essence and build lasting legacies.

 

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